Sutures and Silk
The Grief Sessions
"I didn't grieve him, but I grieved . . . because they were never going to be the same after that. And I grieved the death of the people that they were. And as they are, they became these new versions of these people I already knew"
"I feel like when I was younger-- I just wouldn't even think about it. I would try to just do as much as I could to stay busy and avoid it. But I feel like now that I'm a little bit older--I feel like this time around I really talked it out with a lot of people."
"Everybody leaned on me—
not just my mom and brother, but my aunts and uncles, his siblings.
All of them just seemed
to come to me.
I don’t think anybody realized that I wasn’t getting the support I needed. You know?"
"I don't think it affected me then. Or at least I didn't know that it was affecting me because I didn't cry when I got the news. I just kind of—I don't know, I’d only met him a couple times, he was kind of a stranger to me"
"I'd known him since I was a senior in high school. We hadn’t spoken much recently, but we’d been through a lot together. And whenever we did see each other, it was like no time had passed."
"When I was little, every time I went to go see granny, my great grandmother, she had, a little basket of honey buns, and she'd always give me one. So for me, part of the grieving process was kind of just repeating that so that when I came home, I would I grab a honey bun, and I'd think of granny."